Subjective communication with children

You can use subjective - mental - communication to influence children. That’s what Marie Buckingham did.

Shortly after completing the Silva training, she found herself faced with a challenge in a junior-high school classroom.

There were four troublemakers in one of her classes, four girls who disrupted the rest of the students so that no one could participate. These same girls had a reputation among the faculty and the school counselor for causing similar trouble in all of their classes.

For one week, Marie programmed herself to wake up earlier than usual so she could project to these girls while they were still asleep.

“I would get up, maybe 15 minutes early,” she said, “and project each one on my mental screen. I’d spend five minutes, maybe less, on each one. I told them that it’s more fun to be good than bad and reminded each one that I thought she was a wonderful person.

“And they were all nice girls, and they were all intelligent.

“I told them that I hoped they would cooperate in class so that they, and their classmates and I, could all enjoy the class. I told them I looked forward to having them do this and that I would appreciate it. Then I thanked them.

“After the next class, I asked them to stay behind for a minute. I told them that they were creating problems in the class, but that I knew they were nice people.

“When they came to class the next time, the ringleader refused to let herself become involved in the antics of the other three. She sat apart from them.

“During the next class, she asked a question. The other students looked at her in disbelief. Pretty soon, though, she came up with some ideas, and by the end of class, all four girls were participating in class.

“As they left the room at the end of class, the ringleader looked at me, smiled, and said, ‘You know, I think it’s more fun being good than bad.’

“That was the end of my trouble with the troublemakers.”

Encouraging teamwork among 3- and 4-year-olds

Have you ever watched 3 and 4 year old children play soccer? That was the challenge that faced Katherine Watson when she agreed to coach her 3-year-old daughter’s soccer team.

“No matter how much you explain to them that the objective is to score goals,” Kathy said, “they all just want to kick the ball. Instead of staying in position so that somebody can pass the ball to them, then all just run towards the ball and whoever gets there first gets to kick it.

“I decided to try to reach them with the techniques that Marie Buckingham used with the 3 troublemakers in the class she was teaching.

“First I talked to them during practice, and explained to them again that if they work together as a team, then will score more goals, and if they score more gals than the other team, they will be the winners. When they win, their parents will be proud and excited, and I will give them little stickers that they can wear, showing that they are winners.

“Then I added one extra element: That night, I went to the alpha level - my ‘center’ - and communicated with them again. I created mental pictures of everything that I talked to them about. I pictured them playing as a team, each member of the team in the proper position to receive a pass and move the ball closer to the goal before passing it to another teammate. I pictured them winning, getting their stickers, and enjoying all the praise and attention from their parents.

“Before the game the next day, I spoke to them again and reminded them of all these things. While talking to them, I made mental pictures of them doing these things. I also reminded them that I would reward them with stickers when the won the game.

“During the game, everything went just as I pictured it with my players. It was chaos on the other team, with all of the players trying to get to the ball and kick it, while my players played as a team, staying in position to receive the ball, scoring goals, and winning.

“Parents from the other team came over to ask me how I had gotten my players to follow instructions and play so well.

“I just tell them what to do, and they get the picture, was my answer”

Persuaded her daughter to behave

Here is what one frazzled Mom wrote to us after entering her level and using the 3-Scenes Technique to persuade her young daughter to stop misbehaving and acting bratty:

“A miracle - an answered prayer - my daughter was much better today - very loving towards me, and said nice this and gave me lots of kisses. Made me feel so much better, praise the Lord!!!

“I even talked better with her even after a couple of times she acted up but the way I talked to her seemed to have worked.

“I visualized the end result exactly how it went today.

“So I’m feeling a bit better today.”

A Bed Wetting Problem Solved in Just One Night

José Silva conducted an experiment many years ago, when he was doing his original research, involving a child who had been wetting the bed his entire life. He asked the child's mother to send her son to another city a hundred and fifty miles away, and to let him stay there with relatives for a full month. Then he told the mother to "program" her child every night, a half hour after his bedtime.

The first night, she closed her eyes and imagined that when her son felt pressure in his tummy and needed to use the bathroom, he would awaken, get up, go to the bathroom, urinate, then go back to bed and go back to sleep. She mentally pictured this, like making a "mental movie."

Mr. Silva had cautioned her not to call her son or the relatives he was staying with ,because he did not want to contaminate his experiment. But she called anyway, the next day. The relatives were all excited: The boy had not wet the bed that night. And he never wet the bed again.

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